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THE SURVIVOR STORIES PROJECT 2017: Madeleine Black, 51, United Kingdom

The Pixel Project is proud to present our fourth annual Survivor Stories Blog Interview Project in honour of Mother’s Day 2017. The annual campaign runs throughout the month of May 2017 and features an interview per day with a survivor of any form of violence against women (VAW) including domestic violence, rape, sexual assault, stalking,  online violence against women, female genital mutilation, forced/child marriage, sex trafficking, breast ironing etc. This campaign was created to provide:

  • VAW survivors a platform to share their stories and solutions/ideas on how they rebuilt their lives and healed/are healing.
  • Girls and women currently experiencing or who have survived VAW ideas, hope, and inspiration to escape the violence and know that there is light at the tunnel and there is help out there.

Our 2nd  Survivor Stories interview is with Madeleine Black from the United Kingdom.

TRIGGER WARNING: The video accompanying this interview may be distressing for some Rape and Sexual Assault survivors.

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The Survivor Bio:

Madeleine Black is a Glasgow-based Psychotherapist, Author and Public Speaker.  She worked for 14 years at a local Women’s Aid group as a support worker and volunteered at Glasgow Rape Crisis for 6 years on the helplines. She decided to improve her skills by studying counselling which led to psychotherapy and now works with both individuals and couples and doesn’t have a specialism but somehow attracts clients (both male & female)  that have experienced sexual violence in their lives.  She is also a power lifter, does karate and windsurfs.  She loves nothing more than walking her dog, being with her friends and family, and feeding lots of people.  She is passionate about sharing her story to help end the shame, stigma and silence that surrounds sexual violence, and she hopes the culture one day too. Her memoir is called “Unbroken” and you can get more information about her book and future speaking events on her website madeleineblack.co.uk

 

madeleine-black1. What is your personal experience with gender-based violence (this may include domestic violence, rape, sexual assault, female genital mutilation etc)?

I was gang raped by two American teenagers when I was 13 years old. The rape lasted for 4-5 hours and they raped and tortured me in every way they could think of.

I was raped 3 more times before I was 18, but the level of violence used was not as severe as during the gang rape.

 

2. How did you escape the violent situation/relationship/ritual?

Fortunately for me, I met my husband just before i turned 18 who is great and by simply loving me, he showed me that I was lovable, which helped my low self image

 

3. How did you heal and rebuild your life after the violent situation/relationship/ritual? What actions did you take?

It took me many years to heal and I don’t think it was one thing by itself.  It’s been hard work over but I just became determined not to be defined by what had happened to me.

I told my husband when I first met him that I would never have children, but one day after he asked me about starting a family, I decided that if I didn’t have children then they would have won.  So I came up with a plan that I called my “Best Revenge” and that would be to have as  good a life as possible.

I have had talking therapies and body work too.  My journey has always been to get back into my body because I left it that night when I was 13 and it took me many years to feel my way back in.

 

4. What would you suggest to or share with another woman or girl facing the same situation as you did? 

Don’t wait as long as I did to tell someone (it took me 3 years).  It is NEVER your fault and I would go and get support if you are able to.

 

5. How do you think we can end violence against women?

I speak out now to help end the shame, stigma and silence of sexual violence and I hope the culture one day too.  It was the courage of one woman speaking out that helped me to find my voice and I think that the more of us that speak out the better.

 

6. Why do you support The Pixel Project? 

It’s such an important nonprofit to support, as sadly sexual violence, victim blaming, abuse, every day sexism is a huge part of out culture and we have to do all we can to eradicate it.

 

THE SURVIVOR STORIES PROJECT 2017: Vanessa King, 57, USA

The Pixel Project is proud to present our fourth annual Survivor Stories Blog Interview Project in honour of Mother’s Day 2017. The annual campaign runs throughout the month of May 2017 and features an interview per day with a survivor of any form of violence against women (VAW) including domestic violence, rape, sexual assault, stalking,  online violence against women, female genital mutilation, forced/child marriage, sex trafficking, breast ironing etc. This campaign was created to provide:

  • VAW survivors a platform to share their stories and solutions/ideas on how they rebuilt their lives and healed/are healing.
  • Girls and women currently experiencing or who have survived VAW ideas, hope, and inspiration to escape the violence and know that there is light at the tunnel and there is help out there.

Our 1st  Survivor Stories interview is with Vanessa King from the USA.

TRIGGER WARNING: The first Q&A in this interview may be distressing for some Domestic Violence survivors. ____________________________________________________________________________________

The Survivor Bio:

Vanessa King, a survivor of domestic violence and Founder of Queen Nefertiti Productions LLC, produces beauty pageants.  She’s one of the first recipients of the Jewel Award and has appeared in “Who’s Who in Black Columbus” for exemplary work in her community.  She’s also received recognition for community service from government officials. Vanessa resides in Columbus, Ohio, holds a Bachelor of Science Degree in Organisational Management and enjoys organising fashion shows and other events to raise funds for local charities.

 

vanessaking_headshot1. What is your personal experience with gender-based violence (this may include domestic violence, rape, sexual assault, female genital mutilation etc)?

I am survivor of domestic violence.  My abuser, who was my husband at the time, had assaulted me on multiple occasions.  I’ve been kicked, spit on and dragged, had handfuls of hair pulled out and scratches around my neck where he tried to choke me.  Fortunately my injuries were never serious because I always fought back.

I’ve also almost been a victim of sexual assault, but again fought back so my attacker gave up.

 

2. How did you escape the violent situation/relationship/ritual?

In the domestic violence situation, we were living in the home of one of my relatives.  I made him leave and finally pressed charges against him.  He didn’t know I had filed charges and that there was a warrant for his arrest.  He called to get his things and I told him it was okay to come get them. I called the police but they wouldn’t come because he was not on the premises.

I was able to reach my brother who came over to be with me.  He was able to get my husband to go with him to the store to get beer and while they were gone, I was able to call the police again and let them know they were at the store and would be back shortly.  Just as my husband and brother returned from the store, the police arrived and arrested him.

We had only been married 6 months.  I filed for divorce and about 6 months later we were divorced.

 

3. How did you heal and rebuild your life after the violent situation/relationship/ritual? What actions did you take?

I was able to heal and rebuild my life by spending a lot of time with friends.

In Ohio, if a person files domestic violence charges against their spouse, the state automatically takes the case and files the lawsuit on your behalf.  This eased the burden of having to hire an attorney on my own. I knew that I wanted a divorce but I didn’t have enough income to hire an attorney and made too much money to receive free legal assistance.  I had mentioned my issue to a few of my co-workers.  The father of one of my co-workers was a paralegal clerk and he prepared my paperwork for court.  He suggested filing a petition for a dissolution rather than a divorce and told me what I needed to file the petition with the court.  One of my brothers attended the hearing with me for moral support.  I was so thankful that I was not alone in this as it made the situation easier to handle.

Helping others helped me to heal: I also became a domestic violence advocate and spokesperson for an organisation called Fresh Start of Indianapolis;  I began competing in pageants and my platform was and still is Domestic Violence awareness;  In addition, I became involved as a volunteer in my community with other organisations that dealt with women and children.

 

4. What would you suggest to or share with another woman or girl facing the same situation as you did?

I want to tell others women and girls facing the same situation that they are not alone, they are beautiful and there are people who love them. It may be hard to get out of the situation, but there are resources, organisations and people who will help them not only get out of the situation, but also help them to start a new life without the violence. Speak out and let family and close friends know what is going on – don’t be silent.  There are many people who will help. Make a plan to get away from your abuser.

If necessary, go to a women’s shelter for help. They will not only provide you with a safe place to stay, but also assist you until you get back on your feet.

Once you are out of the violent situation, don’t refer to yourself as a “victim”; you are a “survivor”, which means you had the strength and courage to get yourself out the situation of being a “victim”.

Prosecute. If you don’t, your abuser will get away with what they’ve done and will abuse someone else and the cycle will continue.

 

5. How do you think we can end violence against women?

We can end domestic violence against women by creating more awareness through advocacy and education.  We need to make people aware of signs of domestic violence, teach them how to take precautions and we need to make sure that women are equipped with self-defense products so that they can defend themselves and be empowered to be safe.  

 

6. Why do you support The Pixel Project?

I support The Pixel Project because as a woman and a survivor of domestic violence and already working to raise awareness and funding to stop domestic violence against women, this gives me another opportunity to be involved with an organisation that does the same.

READ FOR PIXELS INTERVIEW: Juliana Spink Mills

As part of The Pixel Project’s Read For Pixels campaign, we interview authors from genres as diverse as Science Fiction and Fantasy to Romance to Thrillers about why they support the movement to end violence against women and girls. 

In this interview, we talk to Young Adult Fantasy author Juliana Spink Mills. Juliana was born in London, England, but moved to São Paulo, Brazil at the age of eight. Now living in Connecticut, she writes mainly young adult and middle grade fantasy and science fiction. Recent work includes short stories in the anthologies ALIENS: THE TRUTH IS COMING (Tickety Boo Press, 2016) and JOURNEYS (Woodbridge Press, 2017). Her first novel, a young adult urban fantasy, was published in February 2017 by Woodbridge Press. HEART BLADE is book 1 of the Blade Hunt Chronicles series.

Juliana took part in our 3rd annual International Women’s Day Edition of Read For Pixels, donating signed and personalised copies of HEART BLADE and some nifty swag to help raise funds for The Pixel Project. If you wish to donate to the campaign to help us reach $10,000, visit the campaign page which will be open until April 29th 2017.

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ju51. Thanks for joining us today, Juliana! Why is ending violence against women important to you and why did you decide to support The Pixel Project by donating copies of your book HEART BLADE to the IWD 2017 Young Adult book bundle for the Read For Pixels campaign fundraiser?

It’s far too easy to see violence against women as something that ‘happens to other people’; something that – when it does happen – is loud, and highly visible. And sometimes it is, but other times, violence against women is quiet, almost invisible, and easily brushed aside by those who are not affected. The Pixel Project does a great job in shining a light both on the ‘loud’ and the ‘quiet’, showing women everywhere that they do have a voice, and guiding people all over the world in ways to raise awareness and teach their families and friends to fight VAW.

 

2. Parents are usually the most influential role models in a person’s life. As a mom, what do you think parents can do to help prevent violence against women and girls in future generations and to get boys involved in helping to do so?

As a mother of both a son and a daughter, I think one of the most important things parents can do is make their homes an open and safe space for discussions on any and every topic. This teaches kids that communication is a better way to solve problems, and that resorting to violence is never the answer. Opening family time to debates and discussions also teaches respect, a key life skill for all children to learn if we want to put an end to VAW.

 

3. In your opinion, how can authors like yourself best support efforts to kick off social change to end violence against women?

I think authors – especially of middle grade and young adult novels – can contribute by not perpetuating certain story tropes that condone violence against women. Writing a variety of female characters that show strength in different ways helps, as does writing male characters that go against some of the prevalent stereotypes.

ANNOUNCEMENT: Read For Pixels “Flash Donation Matching Weekend” with New York Times Bestselling Author Karen Rose

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MARCH 8TH  2017 (WORLDWIDE): The Pixel Project, a 501(c)3  anti-Violence Against Women non-profit, is thrilled to announce the first ever Read For Pixels Flash Donation Weekend courtesy of New York Times bestselling mystery/thriller author Karen Rose which will take place from 12am PST March 11th 2017 to 11.59pm PST March 13th 2017. Ms. Rose has pledged a dollar-to-dollar match for up to a maximum of $4000 in donations made to the Read For Pixels 2017 (International Women’s Day Edition) campaign during this period.

Ms. Rose’s generous pledge covers any donations coming in via the Read For Pixels (IWD Edition) fundraiser during these three days whether they are made by book fans in order to get exclusive perks and goodies from their favourite authors or are standalone donations.

To encourage her global fan community to support the cause, Ms. Rose will also make several unique goodies available on the Read For Pixels fundraising page to reward her fans worldwide for donating. These include 1-to-1 Skype calls for individuals and book clubs as well as goodie bundles comprising her books or series paired with hand-knit items that she has personally made in support of the Read For Pixels campaign.

In addition to Ms. Rose’s contributions, all perks and goodies donated by authors and publishers for the campaign will be released just in time for the 11th March kick-off of the Flash Donation Matching Weekend. There will exclusive goodies from the 11 other Read For Pixels authors including Aliette de Bodard, Jacqueline Carey, Karen Chance, Kendare Blake, Kristin Cast, Laini Taylor, Mary Robinette Kowal, Michelle Hodkin, Michelle Sagara, Shannon Mayer, and Tessa Gratton. Additional goodies come courtesy of Penguin Random House’s Berkeley and Ace/Roc/Daw imprints, acclaimed Fantasy authors Anne Bishop, Darynda Jones, Diana Gabaldon, Kate Elliot, Keri Arthur, Kimberly Derting, and many more.

All funds raised are in support of The Pixel Project’s Celebrity Male Role Model Pixel Reveal campaign which aims to get men and boys on board the cause to end violence against women while raising US$1 million to keep The Pixel Project’s anti-Violence Against Women campaigns, programmes, and initiatives alive.

Regina Yau, Founder and President of The Pixel Project, said: “Karen Rose has been a staunch long-time supporter of the movement to end violence against women and it is our hope that her generosity will inspire book lovers worldwide to not only attend the upcoming Read For Pixels author Google Hangouts, but to also donate generously and begin taking action to stop the violence in their communities wherever they are in the world.”

To donate to the campaign during the Flash Donation Matching Weekend, visit https://thepixelproject.rallyup.com/read4pixels2017-iwd

To learn more about Read For Pixel, visit: http://is.gd/Read4Pixels

To learn more about The Pixel Project, visit www.thepixelproject.net

 

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For more information, contact Regina Yau at info@thepixelproject.net 

About The Pixel Project (www.thepixelproject.net)

The Pixel Project is a complete virtual, volunteer-led global 501(c)3 nonprofit organisation whose mission is to raise awareness, funds and volunteer power for the cause to end violence against women using  a combination of social media, new technologies, and popular culture/the Arts. Their flagship initiative is the Celebrity Male Role Model Pixel Reveal campaign which aims to turbo-charge global awareness about VAW using social media while raising US$1 million by getting a global audience to collectively unveil a million-pixel mystery collage of Celebrity Male Role Models at US$1 per pixel.

About Karen Rose (www.karenrosebooks.com)

Award winning, internationally bestselling romantic suspense author Karen Rose earned her degree in Chemical Engineering from the University of Maryland.  She lived in Cincinnati and worked in the engineering field for years before she began writing novels in 2003.  Rose currently lives in Florida.  Connect with her online at karenrosebooks.com, and facebook.com/KarenRoseBooks.

ANNOUNCEMENT: Read For Pixels 2017 (IWD Edition) – Live Google Hangouts with Award-Winning Bestselling Women Writers saying NO to Violence Against Women

reveal-read-for-pixels-2017-slideJANUARY 23rd, 2017 (WORLDWIDE): The Pixel Project, a 501(c)3 anti-Violence Against Women non-profit, is proud to announce their third International Women’s Day (IWD) Edition of their “Read For Pixels” campaign featuring live Google Hangouts with award-winning bestselling female authors in honour of International Women’s Day 2017 and in support of the Celebrity Male Role Model Pixel Reveal campaign, which aims to raise US$1 million in aid of The Pixel Project. Participating authors include Aliette de Bodard, Jacqueline Carey, Karen Chance, Karen Rose, Kendare Blake, Kristin Cast, Laini Taylor, Mary Robinette Kowal, Michelle Hodkin, Michelle Sagara, Shannon Mayer, and Tessa Gratton.

“Read For Pixels” IWD 2017 Google Hangout sessions will run on Friday, Saturday, and Sunday evenings throughout March 2016. Each session will feature an author reading from one of their books and discussing their writing, why they support ending violence against women, and women in the media, geek culture, and popular culture. Each session will also include a live moderated Q&A session for fans and book lovers to ask their favourite authors questions in real time.

Participating authors have also generously donated a range of exclusive goodies to help The Pixel Project encourage fans and book lovers to donate to the Pixel Reveal campaign including: unique author-curated goodie bundles, signed first editions or special editions of popular books by participating authors, sonnets and stories written especially for donors, a chance to be or name a minor character in their upcoming books, and more. Additional goodies are donated by Berkley Books and Ace/Roc/Daw Books at Penguin Random House, acclaimed Science Fiction and Fantasy author Kate Elliot, and New York Times bestselling Fantasy authors Anne Bishop, Darynda Jones, Diana Gabaldon, Keri Arthur, Kimberly Derting, and more. Donations begin at as little as US$10 and the goodies are available to donors as “thank you” gifts and perks depending on the donation amount. Fundraising will take place in tandem with the Google Hangout series over the month of March.

“Violence against women is one of the most widespread and entrenched human rights violations in the world and The Pixel Project is delighted that so many acclaimed female authors have stepped up to join us in raising much-needed funds and widespread support for this cause,” said Regina Yau, Founder and President of The Pixel Project.  “Since its debut in 2014, over 60 authors have participated in the Read For Pixels campaign, collaborating with us to raise approximately US$34,000 for the cause and ignite online discussions about violence against women by fans and supporters. This is the third year we’re holding the International Women’s Day Edition of the campaign in recognition of the importance of the voices of female authors, a number of whom have faced gender-based violence in their lives. It is our hope that their support of the cause will inspire fans of their wonderful books and book lovers worldwide to not only donate generously, but also begin taking action to stop the violence in their communities wherever they are in the world.”

More information about Read For Pixels can be found at: http://is.gd/Read4Pixels.

 

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About The Pixel Project (www.thepixelproject.net)

The Pixel Project is a complete virtual, volunteer-led global 501(c)3 nonprofit organisation whose mission is to raise awareness, funds and volunteer power for the cause to end violence against women through campaigns and initiatives at the intersection of social media, new technologies, and popular culture/the Arts. Their flagship initiative is the Celebrity Male Role Model Pixel Reveal campaign which aims to turbo-charge global awareness about VAW using social media while raising US$1 million by getting a global audience to collectively unveil a million-pixel mystery collage of Celebrity Male Role Models at US$1 per pixel.

THE SURVIVOR STORIES PROJECT 2016: Rachel Street , 40, USA

The Pixel Project is proud to present our third annual Survivor Stories Blog Interview Project in honour of Mother’s Day 2016. The annual campaign runs throughout the month of May 2016 and features an interview per day with a survivor of any form of violence against women (VAW) including domestic violence, rape, sexual assault, female genital mutilation, forced/child marriage, sex trafficking, breast ironing etc. A total of 31 VAW survivor stories will be featured. This campaign was created to provide:

  • VAW survivors a platform to share their stories and solutions/ideas on how they rebuilt their lives and healed/are healing.
  • Girls and women currently experiencing or who have survived VAW ideas, hope, and inspiration to escape the violence and know that there is light at the tunnel and there is help out there.

Our thirty-first and final 2016 Survivor Stories interview is with Rachel Street from the USA.

TRIGGER WARNING: The first two Q&As in this interview may be distressing for some Domestic Violence survivors.

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The Survivor Bio:

I have been a Certified Victim Advocate for three years and have recently created a page called Empowered before and after Domestic Violence . I will be graduating in June 2016 with my high school diploma and will be attending my local community college to continue my education in the Criminal Justice field in hopes of becoming a parole officer. I am so proud of myself and my accomplishments and I have many more goals for my life. One of my big goals is to write a book within the next couple of years to help the public understand why we stay, and to educate communities of this epidemic – yes its possible! I am also working with the homeless at a shelter at this time.

Rachel Street1. What is your personal experience with gender-based violence?

I had been abused physically, mentally, and emotionally, and was also raped in a relationship. My life came to a horrifying halt in the summer of 2006 when the man who told me he loved me began to put fear in every inch of my body.

He first started with mentally abusing me. His name calling, persuading me I wasn’t worth much – that my family didn’t care about me – had me convinced that there was no way out. Shortly thereafter I became pregnant with twin girls. I thought maybe having brought these beautiful tiny beings into this world would make him a better man and motivate him to be a good example for his daughters. That wasn’t the case. He actually became more aggressive and possessive – more of a danger to not just myself, but to my newborn children. Shortly after they were born, he raped me and I became pregnant with another set of twins. I was helpless, broken, and scared – scared for myself and my children.

Through the next four years I stayed afraid. He kept me in line by telling me the Department of Children and Families were going to take my children from me if I told them about the abuse.

 

2. How did you escape the violent situation/relationship/ritual?

After a horrifying night of him strangling me, and my children witnessing this, I planned to leave when he would least expect it. He was arrested a couple days later on a warrant, and I stayed at a motel with my four toddlers for a few days.

The Department of Children and Families, escorted by an officer, came to the motel and took my children. For two years I fought the system to get my children back, only to lose them due to the lack of knowledge surrounding the effects domestic violence on families.

 

3. How did you heal and rebuild your life after the violent situation/relationship/ritual? What actions did you take?

I have attended therapy to heal the best way I can – by taking the things I’ve learned about myself and utilised information for the better. Though the pain I feel daily and the loss of my children never goes away, I have to continue to better myself and to fight not just for myself but for them. For the sake of my future as well as theirs, they need to know and to see I never gave up – to know their mom continued fighting, and to speak out about domestic violence for others who are and have been silenced.

As I have never graduated from high school so I went back to school for my high school diploma, and I will graduate this June. I’m very proud of myself, but I do get scared because it’s real and it’s positive change. I will also be attending a local college to get my Associates degree in Criminal Justice and I’m extremely excited.

I want to empower other women and support them because I know what it’s like to not have support from the system. I want to be the voice for those who are and have been silenced. Be strong be brave!

 

4. What would you suggest to or share with another woman or girl facing the same situation as you did?

I would encourage her to find available resources. I would empower her and let her know that she is important, and is very capable of pursuing a better life and completing long- and short-term goals. That she is deserving of good things, worthy of a happy and healthy relationship.

 

5. How do you think we can end violence against women?

By speaking out about it, by educating others with patience and perseverance, and by empowering victims.

 

6. Why do you support The Pixel Project?

Violence against women is an epidemic and The Pixel Project is a wonderful cause that helps women suffering domestic violence and other forms of violence against women become aware of the different resources available to them, for example: shelter, counselling, and safety planning to help them become who they once were again.

Through their Survivor Stories campaign, The Pixel Project encourage victims and survivors to know that they’ve always had a voice, and that they can find their voice again. We can change lives by sharing our stories, journeys, and accomplishments. We can empower others and let them know that YES it is possible to recover, and gain our lives and self-esteem back.

THE SURVIVOR STORIES PROJECT 2016: Tamara Grosvenor, 56, USA

The Pixel Project is proud to present our third annual Survivor Stories Blog Interview Project in honour of Mother’s Day 2016. The annual campaign runs throughout the month of May 2016 and features an interview per day with a survivor of any form of violence against women (VAW) including domestic violence, rape, sexual assault, female genital mutilation, forced/child marriage, sex trafficking, breast ironing etc. A total of 31 VAW survivor stories will be featured. This campaign was created to provide:

  • VAW survivors a platform to share their stories and solutions/ideas on how they rebuilt their lives and healed/are healing.
  • Girls and women currently experiencing or who have survived VAW ideas, hope, and inspiration to escape the violence and know that there is light at the tunnel and there is help out there.

Our twenty-fifth 2016 Survivor Stories interview is with Tamara Grosvenor from the USA.

TRIGGER WARNING: The first two Q&As in this interview may be distressing for some Domestic Violence survivors.

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The Survivor Bio:

Tamara S. Grosvenor is a survivor, thriver, mom, and realtor.  She is currently a law student who intends, as a lawyer, to advocate for survivors of violence and child abuse. She also volunteers for child abuse prevention council and a non-profit organisation that educates youth in non-violence and provides support for domestic violence and sexual assault survivors.   Outside her work and advocacy, Tamara is a soccer mom to two wonderful teenage boys.  In her spare time, she hikes, plays golf, skis, and does yoga.    

1. What is your personal experience with gender-based violence?

I spent years in a verbally abusive relationship.  My children heard me called names I won’t share. Then the abuse switched to financial and legal abuse. After I was physically abused,  I left.

Even though I suffer from permanent injury to my hip, I still believe the emotional abuse was far worse than the physical abuse. The emotional abuse tears at your self-esteem and paralyses the victim.

 

2. How did you escape the violent situation/relationship/ritual?

I had no choice but to leave:

I had been thrown to the ground, sat on, and repeatedly punched.  What gave me the courage to leave was the fact that he called the police and accused me of violence.

Thankfully, the attending officers inspected both of us, saw not one scratch on him. They photographed my bruises, scratches and bleeding, and then arrested him.

It was then that I knew I could never be with someone that was not man enough to own up to what he had done, who would falsely accuse me in order to save his own hide.

 

3. How did you heal and rebuild your life after the violent situation/relationship/ritual? What actions did you take?

I was lucky to find a very good psychologist.  She had worked with battered women and helped me to really understand and take action towards recovery.  Because there had been an arrest, the children and I both qualified for reimbursement by the victims fund which was administered by the county.

I also found a new calling: I started law school and I will graduate in six months.  As an attorney I hope to advocate for mothers and children and utilise my experience with compassion in order to help others.  No survivor should face abuse in any form once they have found the courage to leave.

 

4. What would you suggest to or share with another woman or girl facing the same situation as you did?

Reach out to domestic violence nonprofits in your area.  Go to support groups where you will meet many others with similar experiences. Take actions that will help you and your children in the long run.

Remember the abuser is the one with the problem, not you.

 

5. How do you think we can end violence against women?

The violence won’t end until we hold abusers accountable.  I believe all domestic violence charges should be subject to no-drop policies. There is a great discussion of this in Barry Goldstein’s book The Quincy Solution.  Police should video tape every encounter and the videos should be allowed into evidence. The added benefit would be a safer environment for law enforcement since domestic violence accounts for about 35% of all police calls.

The other key is educating the next generation at every age, every year, in school, so everyone learns violence is not okay.

 

6. Why do you support The Pixel Project?

Look back through history and we can see that women have come a long way, but we still have a long way to go.  I like how The Pixel Project is working to increase awareness of the problem of violence against women.  I believe the current generation has benefited from the actions of the women that came before us and that we owe the next generations a substantially different environment, one in which no violence will be tolerated.

The Pixel Project is a spoke in the wheel of change that can help promote the cause of zero tolerance of violence against women and girls and a fair, equal, and safe world for all women.

READ FOR PIXELS CAMPAIGN ANNOUNCEMENT: READY? SET… $10,000 STRETCH GOAL!

Hello, Pixel Project supporters and donors:

We are excited to announce that we have smashed our initial $5,000 (5,000 pixels) fundraising goal for the Read For Pixels campaign within the first 18 days of the campaign! Thanks to 27 generous donors to date, we are currently at $5,215 (5,215 pixels) raised. With just 2 weeks of the campaign left, we’re now working towards our $10,000 (10,000 pixels) stretch goal. This is a first attempt for us because we have never reached the $10,000 fundraising mark in any of the previous Read For Pixels campaign.

Here are three (3) ways you can help us get to the $10,000 golden goal by the closing date of October 19th 2015:

Option #1: The Great Jim C. Hines Cover Pose Voting Contest of 2015

In January 2012, Hugo Award-winning Fantasy author Jim C. Hines wanted to tackle the issue of how women are portrayed on book covers and “how saturated we were with imagery that emphasized women as sexual objects at the expense of power, agency, realism, and so on.” To provoke discussion in a positive way, Jim, with the help of his wife, took pictures of himself hilariously contorting his body to recreate some of the female book cover poses. Here are 2 examples:

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His efforts went viral and he decided to put the popularity of his posing to a good cause by doing custom cover poses to raise over $15,000 for a charity of his choice.

To encourage the Science Fiction & Fantasy community to support the Read For Pixels campaign and the cause to end violence against women, Jim will do one (1) custom gender-flipping cover pose when we reach our $10,000 stretch goal. Here’s the twist:

All donors who contribute to the campaign between now and October 19th 2015 will be emailed a link to vote for one of three book cover poses for Jim to recreate. The cover with the most votes will be the one that Jim will duplicate “no matter what the cost in pain or chiropractic bills” once $10,000 has been reached.

Added bonus: If we gallop past $10,000 and reach $15,000 by or before October 19th 2015, we’ll open the remaining two cover poses for voting and Jim will do a SECOND custom gender-flipped cover pose.

Option #2: The Kimberly Derting “Minor Character” Referral Contest

The Pixel Project and international bestselling YA author Kimberly Derting will be holding an Indiegogo referral contest with the grand prize of becoming a minor character in Kimberly’s next book.

All fans and supporters have to do is:

  • Create an Indiegogo account (it’s free!)
  • Donate at least $5.00 (the cost of a fancy cup of coffee) to the campaign by clicking on the special perk listing that we’ve set up so we know they have entered the contest.
  • Share the Read For Pixels (Fall 2015) fundraising page with their social media networks using the unique custom link to the page that Indiegogo generates for each Indiegogo registered donor.
  • Encourage as many friends and family as possible to donate at least $5.00 when they visit the Read For Pixels Indiegogo page using the custom link.

The contestant whose referrals amass the biggest amount of donations by the time the fundraiser closes at 11.59pm PST, October 19th 2015 will be immortalised as a minor character in Kimberly’s next book.

For more details on how to take part, visit the contest page here.

Option #3: Donate For Goodies!

We still have plenty of fabulous goodies available including:

  • New York Times bestselling author Meg Cabot has generously released a bonus goodie bundle featuring a signed set of her MEDIATOR series and an exclusive excerpt from the upcoming MEDIATOR book, REMEMBRANCE.
  • Special Steampunk YA book bundles featuring signed books by New York Times bestselling authors Andrea Cremer and Colleen Gleason.
  • Original handwritten drabbles and flash fiction written by acclaimed Fantasy author Kate Elliott
  • Goodie bundles from New York Times bestselling Horror/Thriller author Scott Sigler

Give generously and the authors will send you your goodies directly!

Whether you want to see Jim’s latest custom cover pose or become a minor character in Kimberly’s next book or just to get some really cool goodies, visit http://is.gd/R4PIndiegogo2015 and donate to help us get to $10,000.

Please give generously because in the fight to end violence against women: Every dollar counts. Every pixel counts. Every voice counts.

It’s time to stop violence against women. Together.

With peace and love,

Regina Yau, Founder and President – The Pixel Project

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About the Read For Pixels campaign (http://is.gd/Read4Pixels):

The Pixel Project’s “Read For Pixels” campaign features live Google Hangouts with award-winning bestselling authors in support of the Celebrity Male Role Model Pixel Reveal campaign (http://reveal.thepixelproject.net), which aims to raise US$1 million in aid of The Pixel Project and the USA’s National Coalition Against Domestic Violence (www.ncadv.org). Over 40 authors have participated in the campaign including Charlaine Harris, Guy Gavriel Kay, Jennifer L. Armentrout, Jonathan Maberry, Joe Hill, Jasper Fforde, Lauren Beukes, Leigh Bardugo, Meg Cabot, Rick Yancey, and Tad Williams.

About The Pixel Project (www.thepixelproject.net)

The Pixel Project is a complete virtual, volunteer-led global 501(c)3 nonprofit organisation whose mission is to raise awareness, funds and volunteer power for the cause to end violence against women using  a combination of social media, new technologies, and popular culture/the Arts. Their flagship initiative is the Celebrity Male Role Model Pixel Reveal campaign which aims to turbo-charge global awareness about VAW using social media while raising US$1 million by getting a global audience to collectively unveil a million-pixel mystery collage of Celebrity Male Role Models at US$1 per pixel.

ANNOUNCEMENT: Read For Pixels 2015 (Fall Edition) – Live Google Hangouts with Award-winning Bestselling Authors saying NO to Violence Against Women

reveal-read-for-pixels-fall2015-slideAugust 3rd, 2015 (WORLDWIDE): The Pixel Project (www.thepixelproject.net), an anti-Violence Against Women non-profit, will be holding the second annual Fall Edition of their Read For Pixels campaign. Read For Pixels 2015 (Fall Edition) features live Google Hangouts with award-winning bestselling authors in support of the Celebrity Male Role Model Pixel Reveal campaign (http://reveal.thepixelproject.net), which aims to raise US$1 million in aid of The Pixel Project and the USA’s National Coalition Against Domestic Violence (www.ncadv.org). Participating authors include Andrea Cremer, Colleen Gleason, Jennifer L. Armentrout, Jim C. Hines, Jonathan Maberry, Kate Elliott, Leigh Bardugo, Meg Cabot, Rick Yancey, Scott Sigler, and Tad Williams.

Read For Pixels 2015 (Fall Edition) Google Hangout sessions will run on Friday, Saturday, and Sunday evenings throughout September 2015. Each session will feature an author reading from one of their books and discussing their writing, why they support ending violence against women, and women in the media, geek culture, and popular culture. Each session will also include a live moderated Q&A session for fans and book lovers to ask their favourite authors questions in real time.

Participating authors have also generously donated a range of exclusive goodies to help The Pixel Project encourage fans and book lovers to donate to the Pixel Reveal campaign including: exclusive swag bags just for Read For Pixels donors, signed first editions or special editions of participating authors’ books, a chance to be a minor character in their upcoming books, and more. In addition, Berkeley/NAL at Penguin Random House and HarperTeen at HarperCollins are donating mystery book boxes. Donations begin at as little as US$5 and the goodies are available to donors as “thank you” gifts and perks depending on the donation amount. Fundraising will take place on Indiegogo in tandem with the Google Hangout series over the month of September.

“Violence against women is one of the most widespread and entrenched human rights violations in the world and The Pixel Project is delighted that so many acclaimed authors have stepped up to join us in raising much-needed funds and widespread support for this cause,” said Regina Yau, Founder and President of The Pixel Project.  “Since its first Google Hangout series and fundraiser launched in September 2014, the Read For Pixels campaign has successfully raised over US$14,000 for the cause and ignited online discussions about violence against women by fans and supporters. We will continue to hold the Fall Edition of Read For Pixels annually in September. It is our hope that their support of the cause will inspire fans of their wonderful books and book lovers worldwide to not only donate generously, but also begin taking action to stop the violence in their communities wherever they are in the world.”

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For media and donor inquiries: Regina Yau / Maria Del Rio – info@thepixelproject.net / pixelprojectteam@gmail.com

More information about Read For Pixels can be found at: http://is.gd/Read4Pixels 

About The Pixel Project (www.thepixelproject.net)

The Pixel Project is a complete virtual, volunteer-led global 501(c)3 nonprofit organisation whose mission is to raise awareness, funds and volunteer power for the cause to end violence against women using  a combination of social media, new technologies, and popular culture/the Arts. Their flagship initiative is the Celebrity Male Role Model Pixel Reveal campaign which aims to turbo-charge global awareness about VAW using social media while raising US$1 million by getting a global audience to collectively unveil a million-pixel mystery collage of Celebrity Male Role Models at US$1 per pixel.

The “Music For Pixels Summer Charity Concert” Interview – ULRIKA, Sweden

As part of The Pixel Project’s Music For Pixels Summer Charity Concert, we talk to the music artists who have participated in the concert about why they are using their music to speak out and to say NO to violence against women. 

Our twenty-third featured artist is  ULRIKA. ULRIKA’S gifted voice and songwriting blurs the lines between pop, indie and electro. Hailing from Stockholm, Sweden, Ulrika crafted her powerful voice throughout many years of choir school and classical training. With a unique and spirited personality, her global appeal and sound has been compared to artists such as Sia, Ellie Goulding, and Gwen Stefani. Aside from lending her eyes to CoverGirl and her voice to an international campaign for Gillette, Ulrika has been featured in H&M’s 2014 summer magazine. She has reached notable success on YouTube with millions of views and thousands of followers, which has led to sponsorships with TC-Helicon and Tannoy Speakers. Ulrika’s debut single “Animal” was well received by bloggers around the world and has been referred to as “epic pop”. She will be releasing her full EP Summer 2015. To learn more about ULRIKA and her music, visit her YouTube channel or follow her on Twitter or Instagram.

The Music For Pixels Summer Charity Concert was held in support of the Celebrity Male Role Model Pixel Reveal campaign in benefit of the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence and The Pixel Project. Donate at just US$1 per pixel to reveal the mystery Celebrity Male Role Models and help raise US$1 million for the cause while raising awareness about the important role men and boys play in ending violence against women in their communities worldwide.

Donations begin at just US$1 and while the Music For Pixels Summer Charity Concert Indiegogo fundraiser is running from June 5th to July 5th 2015, donors can donate to get exclusive music and artist goodies ranging from personal Skype concerts to treat bundles for the serious music lover.

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Ulrika 1Tell us about yourself and why you have decided to take part in The Pixel Project’s Music For Pixels Summer Charity Concert.

My name is ULRIKA. I’m a Swedish pop artist and writer, now located in Atlanta, GA. I have classical schooling, but knew from an early age that the pop genre would be the most natural and important one for me to take on as a career. The Pixel Project’s mission is something I feel strongly about supporting. The overall message in my songs is inspiring and self-empowering. I believe that especially young females need a strong, positive role model in music.

Why is ending violence against women important to you?

I was raised in Sweden which ranks as one of the world’s most gender-egalitarian countries, based on firm belief that men and women should share power and influence equally. Because of the social values of my country and upbringing, I think it’s pretty self-evident that violence shouldn’t exist and especially not violence against women.

In your opinion how does music help in efforts to end violence against women?

Music is one of the most powerful tools to influence society. You can’t escape music.  It’s in your home, at the mall, in the car, on your trip etc. If a song is written correctly it can help spread a positive and educational message to the uninformed. It can raise awareness and inspire the community to take action while empowering the abused women to get out of their situation.

What actions can music artists take to help end violence against women?

We can raise awareness by writing songs on the topic. We can perform and speak at events like The Pixel Project. We can use our “power” and be vocal about issues like this in social media and such outlets to inspire our fans to get emotionally and actively engaged.